Move beyond words

Everyone has an opinion. Some openly share their opinion all the time. They feel that by arguing their side, others will see the truth in their words and take on their opinion.

But this doesn’t happen. In fact, the more people argue about their position, the more they dig in. They refuse to accept any contradictory facts. In their mind they are right. Their thoughts work overtime to disprove any information that says they might be incorrect.

I’ve learned that it is pointless to argue with these individuals. They made up their minds and are clear that they are not looking for truth because they feel they know the truth.

But too often these individuals can’t move beyond words. They can’t move beyond pointless worry. They can’t do anything to improve anything. They are too convinced that they are perfect and everyone else needs to change.

For those of us that want to spend our life improving and getting better, we have to learn how to spot these mindsets. It could be the way others around us speak. Or it could be the way the random thoughts in our own head operate.

Either way, these thoughts are obstacles. They will hinder your growth and improvement. They will convince you that you don’t need to improve, that it is unfair. They say it is other people’s problems that are impacting you.

But that is fallacy. If you want something different then you have to work towards that. You have to learn how to improve yourself. Nobody else is going to do it for you.

Sure, there are things that others do that impacts you. That is obvious. But there are ALWAYS elements that you contribute to. There are elements that are completely in your control.

Ignoring those to focus on the things you dislike about others does nothing. It doesn’t help you improve. It doesn’t help them. It doesn’t even hurt them. It is a pointless endeavor that leaves you frustrated and worried.

If you want more out of life than frustration and worry, then learn to shift your thinking to be on how you can improve. Don’t get sucked into the blame game. Don’t watch the news to get an opinion. Don’t argue your opinion to anyone within earshot.

Most likely they think you sound like an idiot anyways. So what good does it do? Creates more worry? Makes sure you are keeping up with the latest gossip? None that will help you improve yourself.

Improving yourself should be all that matters. Stop worrying about others and hoping they will change to make things better for you. Instead learn how to make things better for you by taking the right steps to fix weaknesses and grow strengths.

The reason there are so many in the world complaining and arguing is simple. It is because that is the natural way humans respond to our circumstances. We take credit for the good. We refuse to accept our role in the bad.

But if we can learn to shift that, we can start to create a happier, more prosperous life. We can improve. We can get better. But we can’t expect others to do it for us. We are responsible for our own lives, not anyone else.